Chapter 1: Understanding True Strength

Experiencing true strength grants a sense of freedom. I once thought that being strong meant being indifferent and aggressive, having encountered individuals who embodied that harshness. I mistakenly equated their behavior with strength, but in reality, they were merely unkind.

At times, I tried to mimic this demeanor, believing it would earn me respect, but instead, I was eroding my self-worth and adopting negative traits. A genuinely strong individual is never truly hurt; this is because they possess respect for themselves, allowing them to detach from others' opinions. When someone tries to criticize them—even if it’s accurate—they understand that the issue lies with that person, not themselves.

In essence, strong individuals enjoy robust self-esteem, a blend of self-love and self-respect. They exhibit confidence, emotional control, and resilience in the face of negativity. The qualities that define a powerful character are numerous, and everyone should strive to cultivate them.

Fortunately, adopting these traits doesn't require extensive effort; there is one method that can be applied in two ways, and I guarantee that with consistent practice, you will witness significant improvements.

The method I am referring to is the mirror technique. Here’s how you can utilize it:

1. Self-Affirmations in Front of the Mirror:

   I live in a home filled with mirrors, and I used to be my harshest critic when looking into them. I would point out every blemish and flaw, convincing myself of my inadequacies. The self-deprecating thoughts I entertained daily only fueled my insecurities.

Many personal development experts advocate for this technique. After hearing about it from a coach, my mother began to practice daily affirmations. Initially, my father and I found it amusing, but soon we noticed a remarkable transformation in her. She evolved into a person brimming with confidence.

Previously, my mother was shy, easily embarrassed, and often anxious in public settings. However, she has since embraced positivity, formed new friendships, and now speaks with confidence.

All it takes is standing in front of a mirror for about five minutes daily and vocalizing affirmations. Compliment yourself, affirm your strengths, and reinforce how beautiful and capable you are—it’s that straightforward.

Just yesterday, I discussed this technique with my mother, who shared how it empowered her to become a stronger woman. "This method changed my life completely. I became confident and can manage my emotions much better," she expressed.

I recalled a family gathering where a relative jokingly made a remark that embarrassed me. I held back my emotions, fearing that defending myself would lead to tears. Once I found a moment alone, I rushed to my room, feeling on the verge of crying, but I didn’t want anyone to see me upset.

Sitting before my long mirror, I told myself, "You are a strong woman, beautiful and unique. No one deserves your tears." I unconsciously employed the mirror technique. These affirmations helped me shift from intense anger to calmness in mere minutes.

“A mirror doesn’t have to be just for checking on your appearance. It’s a great tool for self-reflection and building self-confidence. According to the Mirror Technique, it can also effectively build success.” — Inc.

This simple technique can create profound changes in your life.

2. Practicing Public Speaking:

   Confidence in public speaking is a hallmark of strong individuals. They are composed, articulate, and direct.

During my first year at university, a professor assigned a project requiring us to present in front of the class. Many of us struggled, but one introverted classmate astounded us with her performance. When the professor asked her about her confidence, she revealed she had been practicing in front of a mirror since the project was assigned nearly five months earlier.

Another notable example is Coach Caroline Goyder’s TED Talk, "Speaking with Confidence," where she emphasized the importance of practice. She shared a story about an actor who shaved half his head to avoid going out and dedicated three months to rehearsing in front of a polished shield that resembled a mirror. This commitment not only enhanced his confidence but also refined his vocal skills.

Therefore, stand in front of a mirror and rehearse your public speaking. Speak as you aspire to communicate, training yourself to become the person you’ve always envisioned.

Initially, as you start this method, your inner critic may attempt to undermine you, instilling feelings of inferiority. However, with each passing day, that voice will fade, and you will begin to feel more energized and robust.

Chapter 2: Transforming Through Practice

The first video, The Fastest Way to Get Stronger (WORKS EVERY TIME!), discusses effective strategies for building strength and overcoming mental barriers.

The second video, How to Get Brutally Strong at Home (WORKS FAST!), offers practical tips for enhancing strength in the comfort of your home.