Chapter 1: Reflections on Age and Ageism

Recently, I had a heartfelt conversation with my father, who is nearing retirement next year but is reluctant to step back. He voiced concerns about ageism, a sentiment I found surprising. He feels the societal pressure of "not being 50" and recognizes a bias against older workers, a prejudice I thought was primarily aimed at women over 40. Our discussion highlighted the impressive qualities my dad possesses: he is hardworking, dedicated, and possesses a high level of integrity. At 64, he would readily put in long hours if necessary, proving that age does not determine capability.

As we discussed the notion of working beyond the typical retirement age, he mentioned colleagues who retired in their late 30s. Interestingly, they didn’t simply relax post-retirement; instead, they sought new opportunities because they wanted to stay active and engaged.

With my own birthday approaching, I reflect on my relationship with age. Growing up, I often felt older than my peers, easily bonding with my mother's friends. However, as I entered the workforce, I became acutely aware of the age bias against women in business. A gray-haired man is often seen as wise and distinguished, while a woman with gray hair may be unfairly judged for not maintaining her appearance.

Aging is a universal experience. Some people embrace it, while others resist. I have friends in their 50s who defy stereotypes—one is in fantastic shape and has taken up DJing as a hobby, while another is a CrossFit enthusiast who travels and enjoys her independence. It’s fascinating how societal expectations often dictate what pursuits are deemed acceptable for men and women as they age.

Are we genuinely encouraging men to pursue their dreams without regard to age while simultaneously advising women to conceal their age to gain acceptance and respect? We celebrate the accomplishments of younger individuals with lists like "Top 40 Under 40," but where are the accolades for those over 40? Shouldn’t we honor the wisdom and experiences that come with age?

My concerns about aging stem not from the number itself but from societal pressures about how I should behave, what I should have achieved, and how I should appear at my age. This societal mold often leads to the quick dismissal of older candidates based on misconceptions about their capabilities.

In today's world, many individuals are choosing to have children later in life, making 30 the new 20 and 40 the new 30. Yet, even some men feel the burden of societal judgment based on age rather than their professional accomplishments.

One of our magazine's goals is to highlight women throughout their lives, embracing all aspects of aging—gray hair, wrinkles, and hormonal changes included. Some may opt for hair dye, while others choose to celebrate their natural beauty.

Instead of fixating on age, let’s prioritize flexibility—of thought, body, and spirit. This adaptability is what keeps us youthful and vibrant in a world that often clings to rigid and unhealthy mindsets.

We warmly invite you to join our community, whether you are young or young at heart, whether your hair is dyed or natural, and regardless of gender or background. We are all part of this vibrant tapestry of society, and together, we can foster positive change.

With love and respect,

Monica Antohi

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Chapter 2: Addressing Ageism in Society

The first video, "This Chair Rocks: Is Age-ism the New ism?" explores the societal implications of ageism and the need for change.

The second video, "Ageism is not an acceptable 'ism' | Age in America | Janine Vanderburg" discusses the unacceptability of ageism and advocates for a more inclusive view of aging.